gonna tell you a little story about something that has been on my heart for a few days now... after you read it I would love to hear your reaction.
let me introduce my characters:
D. ... one of Seth's buds. Seth met him at his previous church. D. was not one of "the popular" kids but Seth kind of took him under his wing and made him his friend.
D. is a big boy, football player big, kind of chubby and not great looking but not ugly, abandoned by his Mom and Dad he lives with his Grandma and little sister. D. is two years younger than Seth so he thinks Seth is the coolest thing ever (and I would agree)
church lady... let's see, how to describe her... don't know her at all so all I can do is describe what I have seen and what Seth has told me about her. .... pretty, very pretty in a plastic kind of way.. you know? way too much make-up, exaggerated looking.. overdone.. perfect hair, perfect clothes, perfect, perfect, perfect... plastic. married to one of the part time youth leaders, married into one of the families in this church who have money. okay, you got her??
now for my story:
the other day D. put something on his facebook wall and used a cuss word or rather a censored cuss word, this word B***H (bitch).
church lady publicly reprimands him for doing this.
church lady has probably never said ten words to D. the whole time he has gone to church there but feels she has the right to do this because...... (insert your own ideas here but I haven't a clue why she thought this would be okay)
It made Seth sooo angry and he, of course, came to D.'s defense (after telling me about it and reading his reply to me before sending it) This caused a big stink and Seth told them all to go F*** themselves. :)
I stayed out of it, but, I just kept thinking and thinking about it and it just kept bugging me....
D. is a good kid, not perfect, no where close to what they expect him to be as a perfect "christian example" but a good kid with a good heart. He loves and respects his Grandma. He is good to his little sister. He works hard in school and at sports and has a job to help out with his own expenses. He has been a good friend to Seth.. he is one of those friends that would fight a tiger for Seth. AND, instead of encouraging him and supporting him (which as far as Seth knows she has NEVER done)church lady thinks it is okay to make him feel "less than"... like a kid like D. needs???? I'm sure because of his size, his looks, his abandonment issues he sure as hell doesn't need someone to make him feel less than!!!!!!!
I stewed and ranted to Mark and finally talked to Seth again before I did anything but today I wrote D. a short message on facebook,
Here is what I said.......
"Hey, I know this might be weird for you, but, I'm a MOM so I get to...
ever since Seth told me about that shit that Brittany put on your facebook wall the other day, it has been bugging me.
One of the (and mind you I said ONE of) the reasons we quit going to church... high minded, judgmental (or maybe just mental) people always putting other people down for not being perfect Christians when what they really need to do is take a looongg look in the mirror... any.. way... enough of the rant.
I just wanted to tell you that she's full of crap and from what I know of you (through Seth) I think you are one of the good guys. You are good to your family and you've been a good friend to Seth. And just remember that being a "Christian" isn't about how perfect you can look or sound.. it is about your heart - and you have a good one!
Aola
The Mom
Parker "
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How does this make you feel? and what would you have done??
9 comments:
It's interesting that one of the scriptures quoted in the conversation was the following:
The tongue can bring life or death. Proverbs 18:21NLT
I wonder if the woman who used that quote understands that one judgment or condemnation from her plastic little lips can bring death to a persons soul.
I don't think that her words were as much about D as they were about making herself look good. I mean look at how godly she is to be able to point out that bitch or b**** is a bad word. She must really read her bible and pray every day to have that kind of enlightenment. Surely she is close to God. Sign me up for her next bible series.
I think that if the best a person can do is point out a flaw in someone else, they'd do better to just keep their mouth shut.
I love that you wrote D a message, and I love that Seth stood up for him. I would have done exactly the same thing.
Just to clarify, it was me, Sandra, that left the above message. I didn't realize David was logged in.
I think she made you as mad as she made me. Thanks for this response... I was afraid I had, once again, over-stepped boundaries.
I LOVE YOU!!!!!!
I'm so glad that you stood up for D publicly, and that you said the things he needs that is so critical to absorb at that age.
I think your reaction (and Seth's) is exactly perfect. She knows who she is. She knows that her soul is dog shit and she compensates for her huge insecurity by projection perfection and accompanying that with her useless pios scorn.
I can smell the funk of her insecurity through the internet. I bet she has some dark dark secrets in her life that we can only guess at.
So, great on you. As for me I say $^$%^@@ her in the @#$@#$, she can @#$%$ and #$%$^#$ my #$%$%!!!!!
I love you too, my Carolina girl :)
Cara, you make me laugh!
A, this did get me really mad! I wanted to type a message to that girl! I held back though.
Im very proud you FB messaged D. This is exactly the BS I grew up with.......grrrrrrrrrrrr.....getting tattled on, getting looked down on for not being the "perfect" little church girl...and then at the ripe age of 16 being told by a church member and preacher that I in NO way would be a good enough mother for my child, that someone could do a much better job then me and that adoption would be best. If they truly knew me, my heart, my will, my love of life and people flat out knew me at all...but no all I got was judgement for being a young mother. So to D and others out there like him....... It would be an honor to stand up for them! Way to go Momma! I Love You!
Hehehehe... A your Awesome! :) I hope I never have to see that "man" again.....
Love, love, love that you wrote him and what you said. :)
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