As I was sitting in a room full of people this morning; I was pretty much tuning out the video preacher's stale message of the same ol', same ol' stuff I've been hearing in church for all my life... Gideon ... boring. I was letting my mind wander to Susan's last post at Visual Voice, thinking how awesome it would be if she were standing up there saying those very things and then we all (probably close to a hundred people) joined in a metta meditation, sending out love in big packets. Wouldn't that be great? Light some candles, being silent, listening, just being and loving.
But, that's not what took place. Boring video message ended, everybody goes home and we haven't really shared anything but taking up space together.
How sad.
I make my way to some of the young women to see how their week has been or tell some of the ones I don't know yet how pretty they look this morning and that's about all the life I get to share.
Hopefully, it will get better as time goes by and I get to know more people, I want to be able to speak life to people, especially women.
I talked with a friend of mine last night, she is struggling, really struggling in her marriage. It is just the same old shit all the time. She comes to the end of her rope, totally stressed out with the situation, blows up, it gets better for a day or two or maybe a week or two and then goes back to what it was before. She's worn out with it. She works in a high profile/high stress job - home needs to be a place of peace. While we were talking that old religious stuff started surfacing and I started to tell her (again) that she needed to try to work it out with him, try to come to some understanding... then I thought.. she has been doing this for almost 7 years now - trying to work it out. What I did tell her was she needed to get alone and ask herself what it is she wants and needs for herself, what will make her happy, and then DO IT!!
Life is too damn short to live it miserably.
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I couldn't agree more.
Aside from my recent revelatory bs about booze, I have made significant changes to be happy in my life.
Work, living style and location, etc.
Life is too short, and so many of us spend it at jobs we hate, to buy shit we don't need.
Tyler Durden said it best "The things you own end up owning you"
After my divorce, I realized that the binge cycle my ex-husband had been in had a lot fo the same feel of the physical violence cycle in which I was raised. Sounds as if, in many ways, your friend is in that same cycle. For me, it could never be one that gave life. I think she is fortunate to have you to talk to.
Life is too damn short to live it miserably.
That is exactly what I said to myself the morning I decided to file for divorce. It really is just too effing short.
I’m sorry about your church experience. The church my daughter and I have been a part of for the past few years is so entirely different. It really is about sharing life together. Even though I don’t believe their theology anymore, the way they “do” church is probably as close to the real thing as you can get. I wish every church in America were like this one.
Yep, yep, yep. That's all I can say about your experiences with church.
I would fly to OK to go to a church service like the one you described. If people would just be real with one another it would be so much easier.
I hope your friend will be honest with herself about what she wants and then go for it.
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