Ever since Michelle at la vie en rose started talking about "sexy" I've been thinking about it and Erica's recent "vest" post caused me to decide to write what I've been thinking.
I asked Mark what he thought made a woman sexy and he said attitude.
I asked Levi and he said he thought it was personality and not necessarily physical attributes (but they didn't hurt) because he has seen some really pretty women who were bitchy and he didn't find them at all sexy.
I asked Christi and she said pretty much the same - that she thought that the beauty/sexiness has to come from within.
That's all pretty generic though,huh?
I am not what you would call a "beauty" and never have been but I have been told all my life that I am sexy. At times I was embarrassed by it but mostly I learned to use it to my advantage (not saying that it's a good thing to use it like that).
I pretty much think is an "eye of the beholder" issue. I think dark haired, especially Latino, women are sexy. I don't find a blond haired blue eyed girl-next-door type sexy at all, beautiful, yes, but not sexy.
But, that's just based on the physical.
I never met I woman that once I got to know and like her that I didn't find sexy in some way - so that would bring personality into play in a big way.
I would say that confidence is a big part of it.
It is kind of hard for me talk about being sexy without feeling arrogant but I guess that is the whole point of these discussions, isn't it?
I'm old now and the only person that could ever look at me and think I was sexy is my husband because he still sees me as I was.
When I was,say, 25 or 30 I knew men (and I've been hit on by plenty of women, too)thought I was sexy and I had that confidence of knowing that when people looked at me they found me appealing but I still never looked at myself that way. I still had all the same body issues that I do now. I thought I was too fat, I thought my waist wasn't small enough and my butt wasn't bootyful enough.... always something.
I never found myself sexy.
Now, at this place in my life I wish I could just look at myself in the mirror and accept that I am who I am, I just look like I do, and that is okay that I am older and softer and saggier, that my body has served me (and 4 kids) well and that it is in this state a beautiful body.
But, I have big, big doubts that I will ever get to that place.
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I am sexy.
even though most people probably see me as a fat, 40 year-old Harry Potter look alike female.
That doesn't matter.
What matters is that I approach my husband with a smoldering lust that makes him shiver.
I need steam on my clothes. I make sex wherever I go. I am dangerously sexy.
I am naughty.
I am nice.
I am sugar and a whole lotta spice.
Sex doesn't happen in your pants
It happens between your ears.
I would not say that I am sexy. I have been to the land of sexy before, but only for a visit.
What I think makes any woman be she short, tall, thick, or thin sexy is confidence.
Stands up and applauds you!!!
I so agree with CV "Sex doesn't happen in your pants. It happens between your ears."
All of my male friends have told me that I am sexy. Which is nice to hear after being with someone for 10 years who told me I was fat and ugly.
My friends all say that yes, I am an attractive woman, but what really makes me sexy is my attitude. Turns out... they really don't want to be with the bag of bones Barbie doll who can't stand to have her hair messed up. They want to be with the girl who knows how to let her hair down and have fun, isn't afraid to do what she wants or ask for what she wants. Turns out... the girl next door is far sexier than the sex pots portrayed in the media. They have convinced me that, like golf, great sex is 90% mental.
Here's to being sexy! :D
I read this and I am mulling it over.
I feel like Sandra out in the "real world," but with Jason, I am Aphrodite...
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